First off, bonus points if you sang the title like the chorus of this 90’s dance hit!
Okay, back to business (sort of!).
2020 is holding NO punches!
This year alone, we’ve experienced a mess of compelling moments, unimaginable lifestyle changes and inspiring moments of vital change, all while still trying to navigate this thing called life. What’s interesting about all of this is that through the noise, madness, and chaos, most of us have managed to find our way back to the one thing that has proven to sustain us: our roots.
To some our “roots” may represent a more consistent daily routine. To others, it could be reconnecting with our friends and loved ones. Some may feel it’s a religious return. It can even be a repositioning for the next step in a career. Whatever the case, the past 200+ days have been filled with moments of realignment and readjustment, causing us to take a hard, long look at where we are, where we want to go and how we will get there.
It’s also forced us to understand that we are not equipped to go through life and struggle alone. No matter how much we feel or declare “I can do this all by myself”, life (and 2020) have proven – we can’t. Protests, essential workers, the pivots to online communication, and even the lack of physical contact have all proven that no matter how tough, independent, or self-reliant we are, we need each other. This theory expands in the social and fundraising sector because although women of color are used to being the “only” in the room, there’s still this desire to belong. To be supported. To be heard. To be seen.
So what do we do in those moments when you’re stuck between those moments of “Praise Is What I Do” and “Knuck If You Buck”? You go back to the most important “root” of all – you. Here’s how:
Rooted Tip #1: Find Your Center
Challenges are thrown at us every single day. Some we can control, most we can not. So when you hit a rough patch that takes you out of your “happy place”, take a minute to access your internal compass and find your center. Locating the three pillars of centering (awareness, attention, and intention) will not only bring you back to yourself, allowing you to find your way to inner peace, it can also guide you to your greatest self which is ALWAYS the goal, right?
Rooted Tip #2: Always Roll With Someone Who’s Smarter Than You
No, this is not a dig on your intelligence. However, as the great quote goes “If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.”
Let’s be clear – No one has all the answers (except, maybe, Google!), but because we all think we are the bee’s knees and the greatest thing since Beyonce’s internet, the truth of the matter is that most of us aren’t aware of how limited we truly are. That’s why it’s imperative to have key players that you can learn from, grow with, and that will make you stretch yourself FAR beyond your comfort zone.
Rooted Tip #3: Lean On Your Tribe!
There’s something ethereal about someone holding space for us to love, care, reflect, laugh, cry, feel what we’re feeling, sort through, move past, sit with, or for whatever else we may need. And no one knows how to do that better than your tribe.
Personally and professionally, the ability to be able to put the world away and just show up as your full, authentic self is something that women of color don’t always get the chance to do, so if you have a tribe who allows you to do that, take full advantage of that and be sure to do the same for them. And if you’re in the market for a tribe, we know a great group of the most amazing BIWOC fundraisers who are just waiting to welcome you with open arms!
There’s power in being aware of who you are, where you are, and where you want to be. There’s even greater power when you surround yourself with the people and behaviors that will get you there. Staying rooted in your authentic self when the world is chaotic is not easy, but if you’ve started the journey and feel your way up, then cheers to you, girlfriend – you’re on the way up!
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